Butterfly Kisses & Bedtime Prayers

"Butterfly Kisses after bedtime prayer. Stickn' little white flowers all up in her hair. Oh with all that I've done wrong, I must have done something right. To deserve a hug every morning and butterfly kisses at night". *** For parents of children with diabetes and adults who are living with Type 1 diabetes. We are looking to share stories, ideas, concerns, and laughter.***

Monday, April 17, 2006

A New Job Come and Gone

Well my new job lasted all of three days!! YUP a whole 3. I just have to relate to all of you what it was like. First please keep in mind that I have not worked in over 6 years. I know that this sounds great to anyone who has had to work and I am greatful that I haven't had to. Not that we have lived on much money all these years. It just wouldn't have been practical with Carylanne and with our military life. This is the first job since diabetes and since Dave's injuries as well.

So I go in for orientation. Very boring! All the paperwork and rah rah about joining a new company. Hey I just work part-time for economical purposes. really didn't care much about the company. I was able to go home for lunch. Took all I had to leave again and go back. But I did. I tried to speak with the personnel trainer about an ADA form. You see I did not want them to hold an absense due to medical reasons for Carylanne or Dave against me. Plus I needed to request a special accomodation that I be allowed to carry my cell phone on vibrate in case of emergencies. They did not think it would be a problem but I needed to fill out a form etc. Well I start that monday and there is no one there to get the form from. In fact no one from my department came to greet me and they stuck me in front of a computer that whole night doing online computer modules. For 6 hours. I almost fell asleep. Talk about very uninviting. No direction. Just hey go do this computer stuff until someone comes and gets you .Then no one did. Anyway I went home that night and cried for 2 hours. I hated leaving my family to go to such a messed up place. So the following morning I decide I will go talk to my new boss. Someone whom I have yet to meet. You see I interviewed with a different manager and mine never came into orientation and didn't see her the first night. I wanted to make a change to my schedule as I came to realize I could not work that many nights and I needed to get this ADA stuff figured out.

SO I try to go in early in the day to talk. If they don't go for the scedule change I was prepared to say sorry I will look elsewhere I understand you need someone more etc. Well they refuse to talk to me unless I am on the clock. So I go in that night. After waiting through a meeting I finally get to speak to the new boss. Well this is where it gets really interesting> First we iron out the change in the schedule. She doesn't seem happy but is willing to make the change. I made some concessions on the nights and we figure it all out. Next I ask about the phone. I get an "ABSOLUTELY NOT". sHE PROCEEDS TO TELL ME THAT "EVEN SHE DOESN'T HAVE A PHONE ON HER AND SEES NO REASON I SHOULD HAVE MINE" Also she tells me that if I had mine others would want theirs and would say they have a sick child etc etc. So I get ready to stand up and tell her, well I can't work here them because I can't be unreachable. Well she stills says no but tries to keep the conversation going More of she doesn't even carry her phone. So I tell her that my husband served in the army and always had his phone, even out in the field in case we needed him. She decides to call in her boss. She tells me she is sure he will say no but she will ask. I call that CYA because she knows I am walking. So he coems in and she tells him the scoop. He tells me that if I can PROVE TO HIM why i need it he'll approve it. THEN HE ADDS "as long as you know its not for chatting on" I was furious. What a sexist remark. I am sure if I was a man he wouldn't have said that. So I say "Curt I am 35 years old with 2 disabled family members as per the ADA. I need this for emergencies and am old enough to know the difference. Well we finish the meeting and I am pretty upset that I am being harrassed over something so simple. I need to be reachable end of story. I then go to ask my boss something and she is really curt and short with me. Well she didn't get her way and made it my problem if others find out I am being given and exception to the rules. But hey not yet, only if I can prove to them I need it. Then she is snappy with me a second time. So I figure this is not going to work. I made an excuse a while later and walked out. I haven't returned. I need to officially quit this week but don't want to deal with them

Now comes the good part. I called the ADA and asked if they are allowed to be hostile and harrassing when a request for accommodations is made. The answer was NO. Then I ran the "chatting"remark by them too. It was sexist and I have a case for complaint. I filed a formal complaint with the Equal Opportunity Commission.

I tell you all this because I want you to know that if you need to get a part-time job DO NOT GO TO Wal-MART. This experience has been horrible and now I am afraid to go back out looking for a job. I din't expect true compassion, hey its a business but harrasing remarks and such a hard time over carrying a phone on vibrate was such a joke. They obviously only care about the bottom line or something. They preach REPECT for the individual but I certainly didn't get that.

So now i am back on the job hunting trail. Very reluctantly but we can't live forever on our savings and Dave is getting worse not better. It will take a few more months until we find out about his pension. Well thanks for listening. Boy what a week!!!!!!


  • At 7:06 PM HST, Blogger Shannon said…

    I don't blame you one single bit for quitting that hell-hole. In fact, I'm boycotting that place.

    I was fuming while I was reading your post.

    You'll find a better job than that. This job wasn't meant to be for that very reason :)

    And I'm soooo proud of you for filing a complaint against them and not letting it go.

  • At 4:02 AM HST, Blogger julia said…

    Wal-Mart!! God, that place is horrible. I boycott them as well, for a whole host of reasons. They're an awful company, treat their employees like crap and have awful policies. Good for you for filing a complaint.

    Have you read Nickle and Dimed? It's about a woman who tried to live off the money she made at places like Wal-Mart. Eye-opening and scary as all get out.

  • At 8:01 AM HST, Blogger Kerri. said…

    Supermom - I had an experience with a dangerously ignorant employee at Showcase Cinemas last weekend. Reading your post here, I can see that you and I are running the same moronic circles. I'm glad you stuck it to them! I'll join the Wal-mart boycott.

    And definitely read Nickel and Dimed. I picked up it by chance two years ago and was stunned by what I read. Brilliant book. I second Julia's recommendation.

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